Top Tips for Couples
"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed"
Carl Jung
Scientific Discoveries
As a result of pioneering new technologies, scientists are now able to look inside the brains of couples to discover what is going on in the brain of happy couples compared to unhappy couples in long term relationships. So what have they discovered?
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- Happy couples nurture their relationship, they regularly do things together that produce chemicals in the brain that develop a deep, long term attachment between them.
4 Top Tips to Nurture Your Relationship
Based on scientifc findings these are 4 Top Tips to nurture your relationship and create a happier future together:
Tip 1. Do new, excting and adventurous things together - think of things you've never done before that excite you both or that give you both a sense of advenute. Do this on a regular basis. It doesn't have to cost anything, you may climb a challenging mountain together and enjoy a picnic at the top. Or if you have a budget you might go bunjee jumping together or try out a new restaurant you've never been to before. Get creative, braistorm ideas or do some research to stimulate ideas. When you do new and exciting things together it stimulates Dopamine in both your brains and the shared experience brings you closer together.
Tip 2. Appreciate and compliment each other regularly - rather than take the things your partner does for granted, tell them how much you appreciate what they do for you. Find opportunities to compliment them and make them feel good about themselves. Tell them what you admire about them. Feeling appreciated and receiving positive feedback from your partner produces the chemical Seretonin in the brain. Giving the compliment will produce Seretonin as will receving the compliment. Positive communication between two people produces Seretonin in the brains of both individuals which in turn will bring you closer together and help to achieve long term attachment and happiness.
Tip 3. Be together in beautiful natural surroundings - Whether it's a beautiful beach, a walk along the river, rambling through delightful countryside, being at one with nature together produces Seretonin in both your brains. Do this regularly, most of the time it costs nothing except time. The exercise will do you good too!
Tip 4. Be intimate on a regular basis - intimacy doesn't have to mean full blown sex, although all the better if it is! Intimacy can mean holding hands, having a hug or a cuddle, having a kiss or a snog or just lying close together. When you and your partner are intimate with each other the chemical Oxytocin is produced and oxytocin is the chemical that creates a deep attachment between two human beings. Some people are by nature more tactile than others and it may be that one of you wants intimacy more than the other. If this is the case, find a compromise that you're both comfortable with, but remember that no intimacy will drive you apart so the compromise needs to include some regular intimacy if you want a long term, happy relationship.
If you would like to learn more about how to nurture your relationship, you can book a free telephone consultation with Nicole to discuss your relationship situation and aspirations and learn how she may be able to help you. Call or text on 07900 904465 or email nwehden@gmail.com